Today marks shloshim (30), thirty days since we said our goodbyes to the earthly part of Esther. The staff at Parkview hospital, where Esther spent her last few months were amazing with her, patiently caring for her, gently exploring the things she still took interest in, loving walks in the garden, and the quiet company of a group of women, and having her hand held when she walked. They told me that as dementia patients lose their cognitive faculty, what’s left is their nature. “Some people’s nature is to be grumpy,” they told me, “but Esther’s nature was to be kind.” During her last week, before a lung condition that would be her final battle took her, she was especially kind and appreciative of the staff and the care she was being given. I’m marking this shloshim with a few more pictures and reminiscences, and the teary appreciation that Esther’s “guten neshama” (good soul) enriched the lives of many of the people she interacted with over her 80 years on this planet. I’ll miss her, and try to do the honour of respecting her by being attentive to people, and kind. Good lessons. Thanks Esther. Love, David
If you are moved to, a donation in Esther’s memory can be made to the Alzheimer’s Society of BC.